Limit Setting with Escalating Consequences
A consequence should be logical and fit the infraction in terms of magni- tude and severity. Hence, it is important to develop a range of responses, from small to large. The general rule of thumb in limit setting is to apply the law of least resistance. Start small and escalate only as necessary to extinguish the behavior. Knowing that we have a series of escalating consequences available enables us to remain calm, yet firm and convincing, when addressing inappro- priate behavior. Remaining calm is essential to setting limits and establishing credibility and authority while preserving relationships of regard and respect. Table 10.2 lists a hierarchy of escalating consequences, which we explain in detail in the following sections.